The Self Awareness Problem
How do you rate yourself at self-awareness? Not, "what score do you give yourself". I'm asking, what mechanism or approach do you use to evaluate your own capacity for self-awareness?
When I ask people to score themselves in regard to their own self-awareness on a scale of 1-10 I almost always get a 7 or an 8.
Yet, when I use detailed assessments to provide an outside view to clients there is almost always a powerful "aha" moment. The "I had no idea I was like that" moment.
Clearly we are not as good at this as we think.
Look at it this way, who do you trust implicitly and completely? My bet is it's someone you know extremely well. Well enough that you are aware of their unique strengths and faults. And they are aware of yours.
Perhaps real self-awareness only comes from others.
Ironic, isn't it?
Q: Who has permission to speak completely truth in your life? What are they telling you?